Sorry about the last post. Too little sleep combined with an overwhelming work load will do that to you!
I am a person with issues. Some of them are related to my being adopted. Some of them are related to my brother calling me “big toe” and “bony butt”. Just guessing here, but I bet that anyone reading this has their own set of issues. I am fortunate that my “issues” are small and manageable. Other people do not have that luxury. My issues are petty when compared with the issues of people who have had to deal with true hardships. Potential adoptive parents often ask if they should even consider adopting because adult adoptees seem to have so many issues related to the adoption. So what. Don’t potential adoptive parents have their own issues, say maybe one or two related to infertility. I am not trying to sound harsh towards adoptive parents, truly I am not. I just think that some people miss the point. The issue is not whether or not the child will have issues, the issue is whether or not the parents are willing to acknowledge and openly deal with any issues that do, and will, arise. Just as they would when their biological child had issues to deal with in their life. Issues are simply a part of life. You just deal with your own unique set of issues.
January 22, 2007 at 8:49 am
i love this post. i really do. especially from an adoptee. it shows such maturity, growth, understanding. and i kinda needed it today so thanks.
January 22, 2007 at 6:19 pm
Yes it’s true. No matter how perfect the brochure makes it sound you are in fact adopting a living breathing human being and with him/her will come………issues. That’s just life.
As parents it’s our job to assist our children through those issues, not ignore them and pretend they don’t exist. Right?
Nice post DO2. ;o)
January 26, 2007 at 8:42 pm
Your post is so simple and yet so wise. There are no easy answers in life. Yes, we do all have issues! Something that I have seen over and over is that parents, adoptive or not, try to use their kids to fix their own issues. Never works.
January 29, 2007 at 1:16 am
Amen.
April 11, 2007 at 5:12 am
Excellent point. I’ve thought about this a lot and I agree with Suz- it was nice to hear it from you.
October 10, 2009 at 12:55 pm
Our issues in life is not determined by our circumstances but rather how we face those issues and come out victorious.
We are all struggling, but ultimately the ones that are not taken by their own situations will emerge triumphant and strong in life as they have the courage to fight on.
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